It's Tragic: A Sympathetic Case for Elizabeth Poldark - Part III

By Saturday, July 29, 2017 , , , ,

Hello again, fellow Poldarkians! I have had such fun discussing the beautiful and hotly debated Elizabeth Poldark with all of you. Part I and Part II of this series have led to some wonderful conversations and I'm so excited to share this final post about her with you! (Spoiler alert! Thorough spoilers from Seasons 1 and 2 and books 1-4 ahead!)

Heida Reed as Elizabeth Poldark in BBC's "Poldark" (Photo Credit: Far Far Away Site)

We left off last time with Francis's tragic early death, the resulting effects on Elizabeth, her marriage to George Warleggan, and her part in her eventual affair with Ross. By this point in the series, she is not the same person she was at the beginning of it. Years' worth of disappointment, loss, and hiding her real feelings have turned her into a very cynical and hardened person. It's sad to me more than it's anything else. Many fans dismiss her contemptuously as a villain by this time because, after all, her choices have gotten her here. Well, yes and no. Many of the choices were hers, but in most of the circumstances in which she found herself, she felt she didn't have another choice. I'd argue that both of her marriages fall into this category. On the other hand, her choices where Ross is concerned are indeed less admirable. And yet, I can't deny that I've found myself far more frustrated with Ross than Elizabeth for much of the show and the books. Here is where the remainder of my thoughts on the subject will focus. After the first three considerations I've laid out in the previous posts, here is one more long one I'd offer. 

Consideration 4: Ross is equally to blame, if not more so, for the problems involving Elizabeth 

Yes, I’ll argue it. Elizabeth was undeniably guilty in the adultery, but I think there’s a strong case to be made for Ross being more responsible for the grand and complicated architecture of all the problems between them. I love him and truly believe he’s a good man at heart, but he’s also probably the most emotionally incompetent human being in all of fiction. He’s written that way purposely and I think it’s partly why he’s such a great character to watch and read about. He’s both maddening and endearing in many ways, and his relationship with Elizabeth is where I (and many others, no doubt) find him most maddening. He practically turns to putty at the sight of her and his reason leaves far too often when she’s around. There’s no doubt in my head that he’s deeply in love with Demelza, but he slips into fantasizing about Elizabeth far too easily when marriage gets tough. 

Heida Reed and Aidan Turner as Elizabeth and Ross in BBC's "Poldark" (Photo Credit: Far Far Away Site)

And that’s the rub about Elizabeth for Ross. She’s a fantasy, similar to how he is for her, and he way too easily idealizes her when reality isn’t going well. He knows intellectually that Demelza is better for him in every way. He and Elizabeth are far too different for them to have worked out (even Elizabeth says that to him in the show!), and he and Demelza fit into each other’s lives so well that marriage was natural. Nothing huge changed once they got married because they were already working together so well, and Ross knows that. But Elizabeth has always been just out of reach, and he doesn’t take enough active steps to guard against the effect she has on him. He immaturely idealizes her, wondering if perhaps he missed the best he could have had. In book 5, The Black Moon, Ross tells Demelza’s brother that although falling in love with Demelza certainly helped him move on from Elizabeth, it was still years before he believed that she wasn’t second best. And at the end of season 2 of the show, Ross’s apology exchange with Demelza expresses his problem well: 

Demelza: I am fierce and proud and steadfast and true and I’ll not settle for second best! 
Ross: Why would you be? 
Demelza: Because you love Elizabeth! Because you will always love Elizabeth! Because you cannot conceal your pain that George now possesses her body and soul! Do you deny it? 
Ross: I do not deny that I loved her. Long before I set eyes on you, she was my first, perfect, untouchable love. 
Demelza: Whereas I am dull, imperfect, and ordinary. 
Ross: Not ordinary, but yes, imperfect! Human. Real. What that night with Elizabeth taught me – and God knows there should have been other ways for me to come to my senses, but my arrogance, my idiocy, has been spectacular. All I can say is after that night – because of it – I came to see that if you take an idealized love and bring it down to the level of an imperfect one, it isn’t the imperfect one which suffers. My true, real, and abiding love is not for her. It’s for you. 

And there’s the rub – the realness of Demelza versus the idealization of Elizabeth. The audience sees it, but Ross can’t get it through his thick head till way later. Elizabeth certainly contributes to the adultery, but if Ross had actively pursued and nurtured his marriage to Demelza from its beginning, he already would have had a strong guard against the baits Elizabeth threw after Francis’s death. Many fans seem to think that everything is Elizabeth's fault because she was baiting him in the first place. Sure, she was wrong to do that, but what about the fact that Ross, you know... RESPONDED to them? And pretty eagerly. If he had kept his cool, maybe prioritized his own wife above Elizabeth, and accepted that Elizabeth is a just a woman, not a goddess, I'd say a lot could have been avoided. If he hadn't taken her baits, she would have eventually stopped throwing them.

Photo Credit: Far Far Away Site

Of course, Ross's enmity with George also plays a part in the affair, but again, Ross's overall immaturity in that sequence is truly disgusting. Though he and Elizabeth were deep in emotional unfaithfulness by then, he’d still given her no indication that he would be leaving Demelza, so I don’t know how he gets off thinking that he can dictate what Elizabeth does with her life. If she feels that marriage to the vilest person in Cornwall is her only option, then he should wish her well. How is it his business? It’s not, period. So to burst into her room, try to talk her out of the engagement without offering another viable suggestion, sleep with her, and then leave her high and dry is beyond reprehensible. Whether you like Elizabeth or not, she’s one thousand percent correct when she fumes in the show, 

How can he treat me so? How can he leave things so up in the air?! … He tried to stop this marriage, but offered nothing in return! He has taken what was not rightly his and walked away from the consequences!
 
Heida Reed and Jack Farthing as Elizabeth and George Warleggan in BBC's "Poldark" (Photo Credit: Far Far Away Site)

As already mentioned, if two unmarried people slept together in the 1700s, the next step was to get married as fast as possible. So it may seem ridiculous to us that Elizabeth appears to expect Ross to drop everything for her, but it was normal and right for her to expect something from him. He had wronged her as well as Demelza and an apology would have been in order for both of them. He knows it too. The book says as much as he reflects on both of their parts in the affair: 

But there had been other – and later – sins on his part. Over and over again during those first weeks following he had known he should go and see her and thrash the whole thing out in the light of day. It was unthinkable to leave the situation as he had left it, but that was precisely what he had done. He had behaved abominably first in going, then in not going; but he did not know what to say, and the impossibility of explaining himself had stopped him. If the history of the last ten years had been the tragedy of a woman unable to make up her mind, the last six months was the history of a man in a similar case. (Warleggan; Book 4, Chapter 6) 

 So there you have it. Elizabeth is certainly a mass of contradictions and has created many problems for every major character in the Poldark saga, but I can’t side with the haters. She makes many regrettable decisions and causes pain to an undue number of people, but I don’t see a villain when I look at her. I see a woman desperate for just a little bit of happiness, trapped by her upbringing, wronged by men she deeply trusted, and very embittered by harsh circumstances. She wants nothing but good for those she loves, but her need to please is consuming and she becomes so very hard. It’s tragic. Really, really tragic. 

Photo Credit: Far Far Away Site

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2 comments

  1. What a thoughtful analysis! I enjoyed reading it and especially appreciated the insights based on the original novels, which, for me, reign supreme. (Not that I don't love the tv series, I do!!) But my opinion of Elizabeth will always be colored by two things: First, her complete disregard of the deep debt of gratitude she owes Demelza, who probably saved the life of her son, and second, her utter blindness (or indifference) to the damage George inflicts on so many people in his lust for status. Even if she truly cannot perceive how callous he is (and I think she does know, deep inside) ... I don't know, for me, that inability to see is itself ... ugh. Just repulsive. (Although I just now remembered that terrible courtroom scene where George condemned the servant who had been abused by the son -- if she didn't know before, Elizabeth certainly discovered then the nature of the man she married. But she does nothing, says nothing.) And one final point: Her shameful role in sacrificing Morwenna to George's ambition. Is Ross blameless? No, certainly not! But I think that if she had been faithful, really faithful, to Francis .... well, I guess we might have had only 8 or 10 wonderful novels rather than 12.

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    1. Haha! Very true about only having 8 or 10 novels instead of 12 if things had been different earlier on! ;) But I do agree that she knows what George is - the novels say as much when she accepts his proposal. It's phrased something like, "all her problems would be solved, leaving only one greater problem: the problem of George himself." But at the same time, I do believe George truly loves Elizabeth deeply and I think they would work very well together if he wasn't always scheming. She actually knows him quite well and I've enjoyed reading the books and watching her figure him out. But the bottom line on her marriage to him for me is simply her position as a woman in that time period - her circumstances after Francis's death still left her in a completely ineligible situation, so I can't totally blame her for accepting him. Trenwith buried in debt, ailing relatives to care for, Geoffrey Charles's future... I can understand why she felt backed into a corner. You do make a great point about Morwenna's situation too - that's the more frustrating one to me and it's probably what has made me angrier at Elizabeth than anything else in the series so far (currently reading book #7!). I hate that her need to please George and her bitterness at life took precedence in that situation. But later on, she's a good friend to Morwenna and sees that Osborne is bad news, so that makes me think she wasn't intentionally spiteful towards Morwenna earlier... hahaha, like I said in the post, she's just a mass of contradictions to me! And I honestly think that's why I enjoy her character despite all the pain she causes the other characters. She's always changing, has hidden depths, and how I feel about her often switches. I like a complicated character and she certainly delivers on that! :)

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