It's Tragic: A Sympathetic Case for Elizabeth Poldark - Part III

By Saturday, July 29, 2017 , , , ,

Hello again, fellow Poldarkians! I have had such fun discussing the beautiful and hotly debated Elizabeth Poldark with all of you. Part I and Part II of this series have led to some wonderful conversations and I'm so excited to share this final post about her with you! (Spoiler alert! Thorough spoilers from Seasons 1 and 2 and books 1-4 ahead!)

Heida Reed as Elizabeth Poldark in BBC's "Poldark" (Photo Credit: Far Far Away Site)

We left off last time with Francis's tragic early death, the resulting effects on Elizabeth, her marriage to George Warleggan, and her part in her eventual affair with Ross. By this point in the series, she is not the same person she was at the beginning of it. Years' worth of disappointment, loss, and hiding her real feelings have turned her into a very cynical and hardened person. It's sad to me more than it's anything else. Many fans dismiss her contemptuously as a villain by this time because, after all, her choices have gotten her here. Well, yes and no. Many of the choices were hers, but in most of the circumstances in which she found herself, she felt she didn't have another choice. I'd argue that both of her marriages fall into this category. On the other hand, her choices where Ross is concerned are indeed less admirable. And yet, I can't deny that I've found myself far more frustrated with Ross than Elizabeth for much of the show and the books. Here is where the remainder of my thoughts on the subject will focus. After the first three considerations I've laid out in the previous posts, here is one more long one I'd offer. 

Consideration 4: Ross is equally to blame, if not more so, for the problems involving Elizabeth 

Yes, I’ll argue it. Elizabeth was undeniably guilty in the adultery, but I think there’s a strong case to be made for Ross being more responsible for the grand and complicated architecture of all the problems between them. I love him and truly believe he’s a good man at heart, but he’s also probably the most emotionally incompetent human being in all of fiction. He’s written that way purposely and I think it’s partly why he’s such a great character to watch and read about. He’s both maddening and endearing in many ways, and his relationship with Elizabeth is where I (and many others, no doubt) find him most maddening. He practically turns to putty at the sight of her and his reason leaves far too often when she’s around. There’s no doubt in my head that he’s deeply in love with Demelza, but he slips into fantasizing about Elizabeth far too easily when marriage gets tough. 

Heida Reed and Aidan Turner as Elizabeth and Ross in BBC's "Poldark" (Photo Credit: Far Far Away Site)

And that’s the rub about Elizabeth for Ross. She’s a fantasy, similar to how he is for her, and he way too easily idealizes her when reality isn’t going well. He knows intellectually that Demelza is better for him in every way. He and Elizabeth are far too different for them to have worked out (even Elizabeth says that to him in the show!), and he and Demelza fit into each other’s lives so well that marriage was natural. Nothing huge changed once they got married because they were already working together so well, and Ross knows that. But Elizabeth has always been just out of reach, and he doesn’t take enough active steps to guard against the effect she has on him. He immaturely idealizes her, wondering if perhaps he missed the best he could have had. In book 5, The Black Moon, Ross tells Demelza’s brother that although falling in love with Demelza certainly helped him move on from Elizabeth, it was still years before he believed that she wasn’t second best. And at the end of season 2 of the show, Ross’s apology exchange with Demelza expresses his problem well: 

Demelza: I am fierce and proud and steadfast and true and I’ll not settle for second best! 
Ross: Why would you be? 
Demelza: Because you love Elizabeth! Because you will always love Elizabeth! Because you cannot conceal your pain that George now possesses her body and soul! Do you deny it? 
Ross: I do not deny that I loved her. Long before I set eyes on you, she was my first, perfect, untouchable love. 
Demelza: Whereas I am dull, imperfect, and ordinary. 
Ross: Not ordinary, but yes, imperfect! Human. Real. What that night with Elizabeth taught me – and God knows there should have been other ways for me to come to my senses, but my arrogance, my idiocy, has been spectacular. All I can say is after that night – because of it – I came to see that if you take an idealized love and bring it down to the level of an imperfect one, it isn’t the imperfect one which suffers. My true, real, and abiding love is not for her. It’s for you. 

And there’s the rub – the realness of Demelza versus the idealization of Elizabeth. The audience sees it, but Ross can’t get it through his thick head till way later. Elizabeth certainly contributes to the adultery, but if Ross had actively pursued and nurtured his marriage to Demelza from its beginning, he already would have had a strong guard against the baits Elizabeth threw after Francis’s death. Many fans seem to think that everything is Elizabeth's fault because she was baiting him in the first place. Sure, she was wrong to do that, but what about the fact that Ross, you know... RESPONDED to them? And pretty eagerly. If he had kept his cool, maybe prioritized his own wife above Elizabeth, and accepted that Elizabeth is a just a woman, not a goddess, I'd say a lot could have been avoided. If he hadn't taken her baits, she would have eventually stopped throwing them.

Photo Credit: Far Far Away Site

Of course, Ross's enmity with George also plays a part in the affair, but again, Ross's overall immaturity in that sequence is truly disgusting. Though he and Elizabeth were deep in emotional unfaithfulness by then, he’d still given her no indication that he would be leaving Demelza, so I don’t know how he gets off thinking that he can dictate what Elizabeth does with her life. If she feels that marriage to the vilest person in Cornwall is her only option, then he should wish her well. How is it his business? It’s not, period. So to burst into her room, try to talk her out of the engagement without offering another viable suggestion, sleep with her, and then leave her high and dry is beyond reprehensible. Whether you like Elizabeth or not, she’s one thousand percent correct when she fumes in the show, 

How can he treat me so? How can he leave things so up in the air?! … He tried to stop this marriage, but offered nothing in return! He has taken what was not rightly his and walked away from the consequences!
Heida Reed and Jack Farthing as Elizabeth and George Warleggan in BBC's "Poldark" (Photo Credit: Far Far Away Site)

As already mentioned, if two unmarried people slept together in the 1700s, the next step was to get married as fast as possible. So it may seem ridiculous to us that Elizabeth appears to expect Ross to drop everything for her, but it was normal and right for her to expect something from him. He had wronged her as well as Demelza and an apology would have been in order for both of them. He knows it too. The book says as much as he reflects on both of their parts in the affair: 

But there had been other – and later – sins on his part. Over and over again during those first weeks following he had known he should go and see her and thrash the whole thing out in the light of day. It was unthinkable to leave the situation as he had left it, but that was precisely what he had done. He had behaved abominably first in going, then in not going; but he did not know what to say, and the impossibility of explaining himself had stopped him. If the history of the last ten years had been the tragedy of a woman unable to make up her mind, the last six months was the history of a man in a similar case. (Warleggan; Book 4, Chapter 6) 

 So there you have it. Elizabeth is certainly a mass of contradictions and has created many problems for every major character in the Poldark saga, but I can’t side with the haters. She makes many regrettable decisions and causes pain to an undue number of people, but I don’t see a villain when I look at her. I see a woman desperate for just a little bit of happiness, trapped by her upbringing, wronged by men she deeply trusted, and very embittered by harsh circumstances. She wants nothing but good for those she loves, but her need to please is consuming and she becomes so very hard. It’s tragic. Really, really tragic. 

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  1. What a thoughtful analysis! I enjoyed reading it and especially appreciated the insights based on the original novels, which, for me, reign supreme. (Not that I don't love the tv series, I do!!) But my opinion of Elizabeth will always be colored by two things: First, her complete disregard of the deep debt of gratitude she owes Demelza, who probably saved the life of her son, and second, her utter blindness (or indifference) to the damage George inflicts on so many people in his lust for status. Even if she truly cannot perceive how callous he is (and I think she does know, deep inside) ... I don't know, for me, that inability to see is itself ... ugh. Just repulsive. (Although I just now remembered that terrible courtroom scene where George condemned the servant who had been abused by the son -- if she didn't know before, Elizabeth certainly discovered then the nature of the man she married. But she does nothing, says nothing.) And one final point: Her shameful role in sacrificing Morwenna to George's ambition. Is Ross blameless? No, certainly not! But I think that if she had been faithful, really faithful, to Francis .... well, I guess we might have had only 8 or 10 wonderful novels rather than 12.

    1. Haha! Very true about only having 8 or 10 novels instead of 12 if things had been different earlier on! ;) But I do agree that she knows what George is - the novels say as much when she accepts his proposal. It's phrased something like, "all her problems would be solved, leaving only one greater problem: the problem of George himself." But at the same time, I do believe George truly loves Elizabeth deeply and I think they would work very well together if he wasn't always scheming. She actually knows him quite well and I've enjoyed reading the books and watching her figure him out. But the bottom line on her marriage to him for me is simply her position as a woman in that time period - her circumstances after Francis's death still left her in a completely ineligible situation, so I can't totally blame her for accepting him. Trenwith buried in debt, ailing relatives to care for, Geoffrey Charles's future... I can understand why she felt backed into a corner. You do make a great point about Morwenna's situation too - that's the more frustrating one to me and it's probably what has made me angrier at Elizabeth than anything else in the series so far (currently reading book #7!). I hate that her need to please George and her bitterness at life took precedence in that situation. But later on, she's a good friend to Morwenna and sees that Osborne is bad news, so that makes me think she wasn't intentionally spiteful towards Morwenna earlier... hahaha, like I said in the post, she's just a mass of contradictions to me! And I honestly think that's why I enjoy her character despite all the pain she causes the other characters. She's always changing, has hidden depths, and how I feel about her often switches. I like a complicated character and she certainly delivers on that! :)

    2. Anon, are you referring to the books or the TV series? Because those both actually conflict. In the TV series, Elizabeth wasn't thankless to Demelza, regarding her nursing of the Trenwith Poldarks while they were ill. She actually came to return the favor 100%, when Demelza fell ill. At this point, it’s also fitting to remember that Demelza didn’t care for Elizabeth and Geoffrey Charles purely out of the goodness of her heart. She did this mainly because she wanted back into Ross’s good graces. For two things. First, she had lied to him and broken his trust, in her aiding of Verity and Blamey’s coming together—thus causing a huge rift between Ross and his remaining family. And then, for her heavy hand in the demise of the Carnmore Copper Company. Also notable, putrid throat takes nearly a week for symptoms to begin showing, so it’s likely or possible that Demelza was already incubating the sickness before she went to Trenwith. On the second point, Elizabeth is very clearly disturbed by George’s tactics. Especially fainting after his rulings as Magistrate. Her inability to ‘say something’ was likely due to a few reasons. For starters, she is a real woman of her time, and women of the time had little to no voice to speak out against the decisions of men, let alone their husbands. Should she have? Maybe. But we’re viewing everything from a modern perspective. I think a lot of times people expect every woman to be as free in her speech and opinions as Demelza. Also, she was in a peculiar position. She was having this child who was not fathered by her new husband. She had to do everything to protect that secret, and for a long time, she was trying to just stay in George’s good graces, so as to not ascended or trigger his anger and set off any suspicions. Selfish and selfless at the same time, but protecting your own is something we all do. She was a really devoted Mother. As for her role in Morwenna’s marriage to Ossie, in the books… she knew nothing of it. But in the books, Ossie is described also as good looking, and no one is aware of his real true nature until after the wedding. Morwenna also marries him in the books, out of mostly choice… there was no life-or-death blackmailing situation there. On the show… while obviously again troubled by Ossie and saying he makes her skin crawl, Elizabeth did try to instantly let him out of the marriage. As for her not being faithful to Francis, I say… how weird? His constant jealousy of Ross lead him to heavy drinking, gambling, discouraging her input or investigative thoughts (regarding the mine), and ongoing infidelity. Really sad. Elizabeth was obviously put off by these things, and I don’t blame her for not enjoying their marriage, until after Francis’ turn around. At which point I think Elizabeth was nearly perfectly happy. I’m still jaded because of Francis’ death! At the end of the day, we know that Ross loved Elizabeth, and thought very highly of her moral fiber and her looks. I trust Ross and his impeccable judgment of character. I say Elizabeth was a wonderful young woman who got dealt a very bad hand, got jaded for a hot minute, and then did her best for those she loved, despite it. In the books, we never see anything from Elizabeth’s own perspective. It’s always through someone else’s eyes. We don’t necessarily know what makes her tick, or what’s going on in her mind. I think that’s unfortunate.

  2. In the books, we never see anything from Elizabeth’s own perspective. It’s always through someone else’s eyes.

    That is only true of the second and third novels - "DEMELZA" and "JEREMY POLARK". The other novels do feature Elizabeth's point-of-view. I'm surprised that no one has ever noticed.

    I have always liked Elizabeth. I believe one of the reasons is that like her, I am something of a reserved woman. And I have noticed over the years that people are not that tolerant of reserved women. Worse, they tend to make the worst assumptions about them.

    I am not one of those who believed that Elizabeth had emotionally manipulated Ross before the May 9, 1793 incident. Not in the novel, "Warleggan" or in Series Two of "POLDARK". It was only right that she informed Ross of her upcoming marriage to George. He was head of the Poldark family, Geoffrey Charles' cousin . . . and he had been helping her (somewhat) maintain Trenwith. Remember . . . both Ross and Francis had made a deal with each other to look after their widows if anything should happen to them. And in the "Warleggan" novel, Elizabeth not only informed Ross, but also Verity.

    If there is one thing I have to be critical about Elizabeth, it was her role in coercing her cousin Morwenna into marrying Osborne Whitworth. However, I believe she is not solely to blame. George is definitely to blame. But Elizabeth did not hesitate to help. In "The Black Moon", Ross did not seem interested in helping Drake's romance due to his unwillingness to get involved with George . . . or his in-laws, until after the France rescue trip. Although Demelza felt sorry for Drake and Morwenna, she was no more interested in supporting Drake's romance with Morwenna than Ross. In the recent TV series, producer Debbie Horsfield tried to paint Demelza's lack of support in a sympathetic manner, but I found this hard to buy.

    For those of you who felt that Elizabeth's point-of-view was never touched upon, I suggest you read the first novel again, along with anything between Warleggan" and The Angry Tide".

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    2. Senin de blogunu okudum ve kadın karakterler hakkında yazdıklarına imzamı atıyorum. Bu kadar aynı düşüncede olduğum ikinci kişisin ❤️

  3. Malesef elizabethin rossa yem attığını söylediğin şeylere kesinlikle katılmıyorum. Rossun elizabeth karşısında cocuk gibi olması onun suçu değil! Ross kendi içinde bitirmemişki henüz. Ve evli ve çocuklu olan oyken nasil dul olan eli daha fazla onu manipule ediyor diyorsunuz anlamıyorum. Elizabeth para ve yaşam konusunda tecrübesiz biri, bir şeyleri rossa danışmak zorunda zaten. Ailenin tek erkeği başka kime yazabilir. George ile evliliğini de tabiki yazacaktı. Haber vermek zounda. Hem arkadaşlar hem de ikisi de poldark. O mektubu yazdığında akşam vakti miydi hatırlamıyorum ama rossun gece vakti geleceğini ve kendisine bu kadar tepki vereceğini bilemezdi. Yani cok açık bir şekilde tecavüz olarak baslayan bir sahne asla haklı kadının suçu olamaz. Evet bir andan sonra senelerin merak ve özlemi, şiddeti ile devam etmesi normal çünkü sevdiği adam! Ama hepimiz biliyoruz ki elizabeth bunu kabul edecek biri değil. Dönemin kurallarını temsil ediyor kadın. Ayrıca inan o sezonu tekrar izledim ve ross'un ona o meshur bakışlarını ikisinin sahnesinde görürdüm. Elizabethin yemini değil. Bir reddit sayfasında bir adam rossun o davranışı için, elizabethe george'un sunamayacağı onun elizabethe vereceklerinin yanında bir seyi olmadığı için kendisini sunduğunu ve böylece onu geçeceğini düşündüğünü söylemişti eli için. Değişik bir bakış açısı ozellile erkeklerden. Zaten rossun her gördüğü yerde george için 'benim sahip olmadığım şeylere sahip' demesi de çok üzüyordu insanları.. Yani ben bu ikiside %85 rossun hatalı olduğunu düşünüyorum. Bir de sabaha kadar kadının yanında kalıyor. Buna ben önemsememistim mesela romelza fanları yazmadan önce..

  4. Son olarak Elizabeth'in ross'a seninle ben hiç anlaşamadmzdık karakterlerimiz farklı demesini kanıt gösterişsin ama aynı şeyi enys ve caroline da yaşadı ve sonlarını gördük. Bu tarz replikler hep oluyor. Karakteri bırak sınıf farkının her seye olduğu bir zamandan bahsediyoruz. Ve enys caroline ile ben cok farklıyız dediginde demalza ona moral vermişti. Demalza da nasıl kendisinden bambaşka biriyle evlenmiş olsa da pişman olmadı, hatta drake ve morvenna aşkına engel olmuştu. Bu da demalzayı asla anlamadığım olaylardan biridir, demalza yerine başkası yapsa anlaşılırdi.

  5. i disagree on the insistence that ross idealized/romanticized liz. if you look at the scripts (and just watch the show), you would realize that's not true. idealizing someone is making false things up about someone you don't know. and ross and liz knew each other down to the atoms of their bones, and the scripts support this! one example i can think of is in S1 when francis declares bankruptcy and liz walks off. it's stated that her back is turned and she isn't called, but she can literally sense ross' presence walking up to her before he calls her name. that's not a connection from one side. that's deep inset knowledge of a person's soul.
    moreover ross' feelings for her wasn't skin deep, as the show (and scripts) show ross' feelings for her only rises as soon as she shows the goodness of her character (keeping a brave outlook at the bankruptcy, being a loyal friend etc). so we know his feelings for her aren't superficial. and how could they be? the scenes of them together show how in love they were. you don't show that much love and pining (for over 10 years!) and it suddenly ends superficial.

    i never believed or even wanted ross to love liz more than mella. i don't think that would be right for the story of poldark. but i don't think he's ever going to lessen his love for liz either. i'm a firm believer of him loving both up to the day he dies. however, mella is an overall simple character and with liz, there is *more* offerings of a deeper relationship and connection. i read a post of a new fan who recently said they love ross and demelza, but as soon as they can settle on their marriage in comes elizabeth, and you truly see the scope of what ross fumbled on. there's just this gaping hole of lost potential whenever they're even in the same room and not necessarily together, and that's the real tragedy of their relationship. i think in that way, we can be just as ross. so happy with mella, but as soon as we see even a second of liz, you're just reminded of so much that was lost. that, i believe, is one of the main reasons why ross just can't let go, not ever really. because that dream could have been a reality, a successful reality, and one that he could have made but was too proud for it.
    and i believe that's the point. it's not fair for liz to die miserable, afraid and alone with a man she doesn't love and have ross get off scott free with a phew and a wiping of his brow that he made "the right choice" with mella. no. he want liz both made mistakes and they must suffer for them (and he pays dearly near the end of the books which is the justice i couldn't have written better).

  6. (pt2)
    also, i find it rather ironic how everyone's hope was with mella and that he would choose her finally in his marriage, only for her to cheat on him in a fraction of the time ross restrained himself with liz. but instead her betrayal gets ignored because of the truth - her relationship with hugh didn't hold a candle to the true, deep understanding ross and liz had that came with their love and for so long. if anything, her relationship with hugh was idealized and romanticized; gooey love letters and over the top displays of affection. but alas, mella doesn't face a quarter of the hate liz gets even today, even though she's the only woman most loyal to ross (even my mother who hates liz says she would have never cheated). so now i ask you, who's the idealized one now? ;)

    it would make sense if ross idealized liz if they hadn't been boyfriend and girlfriend for to long, or if he just met her. but that's what makes romance in poldark different than other late 1700s shows. ross and liz had an active and real relationship . they were literally going to get married for pete's sake. how much sense would it make to decide marry someone you've known for years, and then suddenly you don't?
    that's why i hate the line ross tells mella in the doorway. it wasn't honest and it wasn't true to the story and robs liz of her complexity by being tossed aside as a pedestaled woman. i'm very glad it was changed in S4 after she dies and ross confirmed he loved liz as he loves mella now, and that mella is the second woman he has ever loved deeply. that ties well with his character, his relationship with liz as well as her character, and the story all at once. ross and liz' deep and layered relationship shouldn't be robbed by being claimed as "romanticized". they've contributed to the story too much for that. they had 3 whole spouses in tears over their love, to say all of it was fake is just plain dishonesty.

  7. Yes, I’ll argue it. Elizabeth was undeniably guilty in the adultery, but I think there’s a strong case to be made for Ross being more responsible for the grand and complicated architecture of all the problems between them. I love him and truly believe he’s a good man at heart, but he’s also probably the most emotionally incompetent human being in all of fiction. He’s written that way purposely and I think it’s partly why he’s such a great character to watch and read about. He’s both maddening and endearing in many ways, and his relationship with Elizabeth is where I (and many others, no doubt) find him most maddening. He practically turns to putty at the sight of her and his reason leaves far too often when she’s around. There’s no doubt in my head that he’s deeply in love with Demelza, but he slips into fantasizing about Elizabeth far too easily when marriage gets tough.

    What are you talking about? Are you solely referring to the television series, when it comes to Elizabeth? I'll tell you what happened in the novel. When Elizabeth had informed both Ross and Verity of her upcoming wedding to George Warleggan, Ross went to Trenwith and RAPED HER. He raped her. He had inflicted his anger over her decision to marry George by sexually forcing himself on Elizabeth. She had been so upset over the rape that she was angry at Ross for years. Demelza eventually realized some 20 years after incident that Ross had raped Elizabeth. But she never confronted him about it. Ross had spent nearly 30 years pretending he had done nothing wrong to Elizabeth. But it took a family tragedy for him to finally acknowledge that he had raped Elizabeth. That occurred in the series' last novel.